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Is It Ever Too Late to Send a Sympathy Card?
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Q. How late is too late to send a sympathy card?

Anna Marie Stephens

Spartanburg, South Carolina

A. It’s never too late. Writing a sympathy card within a week after hearing of a death is always ideal. But if you miss that time frame or find out about a death months later, there’s no actual deadline, so go ahead and send a note, says Cindy Post Senning, director of the Emily Post Institute. As with so many other things in life, late is definitely better than never.

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