You’ve probably said it a dozen times already today. To a coworker. To another parent at school. To the person taking your order at Panera. You’ve definitely emailed it to someone.
“Sorry for the delayed response.”
“I’m sorry I’m just now getting back to you.”
“Sorry to bug you, but…”
Women say they are sorry all the time, and while most of us have heard that we should stop—and all the stats about how women apologize way more often than men—we still do it. Why? For most of us, it’s simply a habit that’s incredibly hard to break. We value kindness and good manners (after all, we’re constantly imploring our kids to have both), and we think that a quick “I’m sorry” before asking for something or even correcting a wrong makes the whole interaction more pleasant. Like the spoonful of sugar that helps the medicine go down. In the case of email, a “Sorry for the late reply” probably just highlights the late part, something the person on the other end hasn’t thought about at all (we’re guessing). So, in an effort to, once and for all, drive home how ridiculous it is to apologize for unnecessary things, we asked kids to do it. After all, our children hear us say “sorry” over and over; how long before they do, too? Your daughters don’t need to apologize for, well, life: messy houses, busy days, traffic. And neither do you.