Because the key to your heart might as well be your passcode.

By Maggie Seaver
Updated September 12, 2019
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How does relationship trust correlate with technology? Do you and your significant other know each other’s phone passcodes, social media logins, or other tech accounts—and does that affect the depth and contentment of your relationship?

To find out,, a safe online platform for selling and buying used tech, combed through answers from nearly 1,000 respondents in a relationship who were asked about how technology plays into different nuances of their relationship. It turns out that trust and transparency when it comes to accounts and gadgets has an intriguing correlation to relationship success and satisfaction. And we’re talking about access to everything from email to photos to bank accounts.

Interestingly, according to the survey, more than half of respondents (54 percent) have access to their partner’s accounts and devices, and those with access were more than twice as likely to report being satisfied in their relationship compared to those who don’t know their SO’s passwords. But it’s probably not shocking to note that the longer the relationship, the more likely partners are to have visibility into their significant other’s cyber world: Of people in a relationship for five or more years, 62 percent have access to their partner’s accounts and devices, while only 32 percent of those who have only been together for one to five months do. (That said, the fact that 32 percent of people share their personal tech accounts with someone they’ve been dating for a few months is somewhat surprising.)

Trust goes both ways, though, doesn’t it? If one form of trust comes from your partner literally entrusting you with their personal device accounts, then another form is trusting you not to snoop around—in other words, trusting you to trust them. According to the survey, women are more likely to sneak a peek at their partner’s accounts/devices than men are (40 percent and 25 percent, respectively). The most common thing for people to check covertly is not their partner’s texts or DMs, but actually their bank accounts (both men and women check their partner’s bank account between two and three times a month). Beyond what’s in their bank accounts, ladies seem more concerned with their partner’s photos, and men are more interested in checking their partner’s social media.

Bottom line? Whether you realize it or not, how well you trust your partner may translate into how open you are with them about everything from your phone passcode to your bank account information.