What if we spend thousands of dollars on plane tickets and then he moves here and it doesn’t work out? What if we don’t like living in the same city? What if this is a waste of my time? What if after all this waiting we have a bad weekend together? You can come up with a lot of what-ifs over the course of a long distance relationship. But here’s the reality: You could come up with a lot of what-ifs in any relationship. Try to take it one day at a time, they suggest. Do you want to be with this person today? There’s no good way to predict the future—all you can do is make the best decisions you can in the moment. And what if it does work out? It did for them.
Listen to the rest of John and Laura’s advice, including some surprising upsides of being in a long distance relationship, in Real Simple’s Adulthood Made Easy podcast.