Frequent check-ins with your partner may improve relationship satisfaction.

By Real Simple
Updated October 14, 2015
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When you’re both in a good mood and have undivided attention, hold a money meeting to check in, review goals and discuss what’s working and what isn’t. It could be over brunch or after dinner when the kids are in bed. An adult beverage is not required, though highly recommended. Whatever time you choose, make it productive. If you’ve been thinking it’s a good time to refinance the mortgage, use this time to discuss your options. If you, as the primary household bookkeeper want a break for a month and make the other run the ship, ask to switch things up for the next month.
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Sitting down for an annual performance review with your boss can be nerve-wracking and uncomfortable—still regular reviews in your personal life could enhance relationship satisfaction. In fact, a growing number of marriage therapists are recommending it to couples, according to a widely-shared article in The Wall Street Journal.

On this week’s episode of “The Labor of Love,” RealSimple.com editor Lori Leibovich speaks with Kathlyn Hendricks, a relationship coach, psychologist, and co-author of the upcoming book Conscious Loving Ever After, and Dr. Rebecca M. Chory, a professor in the College of Business at Frostburg State University who studies negative feedback in the workplace, about how partners can use formal check-ins to strengthen their bond.

Why should couples give them a try? Regardless of the context, everyone wants to be treated with respect, feel validated, and be put at ease. Hendricks suggests scheduling two weekly meetings—one to sort out any issues with household management and another to discuss more intimate issues. In both situations, she recommends starting off with positive feedback, and then continuing with any concerns.

For more expert advice, including how to carve out time for these reviews, listen to the full episode below. Don't forget to subscribe and review on iTunes!