According to the couples who have done it themselves.

By Liz Steelman
June 09, 2017

You come across a 90 year-old couple canoodling in the park (aww!). But what, exactly, did it take for that relationship to last so long—and still maintain some spark? How can you get that for you and your partner? Karl Pillemer, gerontologist and author of 30 Lessons for Loving: Advice from the Wisest Americans on Love, Relationships, and Marriage, set out to answer exactly that. He interviewed more than 700 people who have been married for a total of 40,000 years as part of the Cornell Marriage Advice Project. Here's what he has found to be the most common advice from elderly couples who have stayed together for 30, 40 or even 50 years of marriage.

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