And advice for parents who have trouble letting go. 

By Real Simple
Updated September 04, 2015
“Failure after long perseverance is much grander than never to have a striving good enough to be called a failure.”
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Raising kids can often feel like a balancing act, especially when it comes to helping them achieve success. As they grow older, we constantly find ourselves wondering: How do we strike a balance between taking care of our kids and making sure they can take care of themselves? In her new book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go so Their Children Can Succeed, Jessica Lahey, a journalist who has taught middle and high school for more than a decade, suggests that success will only happen when parents back off and allow their children to experience failure.

In the latest episode of "The Labor of Love," one of Real Simple's podcasts, host and editor Lori Leibovich talks to Lahey about the consequences of over-parenting, the various studies that back up Lahey's advice, and the benefits of embracing an autonomy-supportive parenting style. Lahey discusses what prompted her to write the book, gives advice for failure-averse parents who find it difficult to watch their children struggle, and suggests ways that parents can model their own failures—which can help teach their children invaluable lessons.

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