Oh, it's tempting. Especially for the little injustices that loom large only for a six-year-old (size and shape of Play-Doh allotment, length of time on parental shoulders). "That phrase means absolutely nothing to a child," says Braun. The better response: "I think you're saying that you don't like it. You're unhappy." For the little things, follow that up with "Yep, I'm not always going to scoop ice cream the exact same way every time." Or (when it comes to stuff): "You'd like a new pair of shoes—I get it. And when your feet grow, you'll get them." Don't overexplain. "When you bend over backwards with answers, you run the risk of a child thinking, I'm getting the attention I want," says Braun. But don't brush it off, either. "If one kid gets something more, even if there's a great reason, but you don't talk about it, this creates hidden resentment," says Heyman. Sometimes your kids will be spot on—a situation is truly unjust. "Maybe a child comes home and says, "The teacher punished the whole class for something that one kid did. That's not fair." That's the opportunity for a good discussion, acknowledging that it can be tricky," says Heyman. "Maybe they wouldn't have handled it that way, but they can try to see the teacher's perspective."