Her Instagram posts celebrate the good, the bad, and the ugly of pregnancy, motherhood, and more.

By Lauren Phillips
August 30, 2018

 

With a 6-year-old son and a second child—a daughter—on the way, Hilary Duff knows a thing or two about parenting. She’s still learning, though.

“I don’t know what it’s like to have two kids,” the Younger star told Real Simple recently, “But I will learn along the way.”

Hopefully, Duff will be as honest in her learning process as she’s been throughout her last few months of pregnancy. (She’s already known for being real about loving her body, so-called flaws and all.) Her posts on social media about the unglamorous (and often overlooked) aspects of pregnancy celebrate the real beauty and strength pregnant women possess, and they’ve inspired thousands of women to chime in with their own celebrations of the good, the bad, and the ugly parts of motherhood.

When Real Simple sat down with Duff, we had to ask if she’d be as honest about the often-difficult early months of motherhood as she has been about pregnancy. “I think it depends on the child,” she said. “One thing I’ve learned about social media is [that] I try to have a little bit of humor with it, and however I’m feeling that day is kind of what I want to portray.

“I think if you’re not honest on social media, and authentic, people can smell it all over you,” Duff continued. “I think part of my whole entire career has been this reachable thing where people really relate to me, and that’s honestly how I feel most comfortable and who I want to portray.”

Duff is partnering with Jif Peanut Butter and the Boys & Girls Clubs of America for the second year of the Imagine If, With Jif competition, which seeks to support kids’ entrepreneurial and creative dreams by providing grants to winning idea submissions; find out more at jif.com/imagine-if. 

When she sat down with Real Simple, Duff talked about the importance or supporting creativity, motherhood, and more—read on for an expert of our conversation (full chat in video, above!).

RS: You’ve been honest on social media about pregnancy challenges. Do you think you’ll be equally honest about the first months of parenting?

HD: I think it depends on the child. One thing I’ve learned about social media is that I try to have a little bit of humor with it and however I’m feeling that day is kind of what I want to portray, and we’ll see what kind of baby she is. I think even if you have the best baby who never cries or who sleeps all night long, motherhood is still challenging. There’s so much that you’re dealing with, your life completely changes, and your life isn’t really your own for the first couple of months. You’re always putting your family first, and you’re dealing with your body changes and the hormones, and it’s really a never-ending list of changes.

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RS: How will you emphasize the possible distinct creative abilities of your two children?

HD: I think motherhood has taught me a lot of patience, and taught me to really listen to what my child has to say. And it’s easy: They talk all day long, and...it’s easy to tune that out when you’re also trying to get them somewhere on time and you have to pack the bags and put the dogs away and make sure they have water and snacks and are prepared. But, trying to really listen is so important, because everyone—no matter what age you are—just wants to feel heard.
 

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RS: You've said you want to emphasize uniqueness and creativity in your children. Tell us more about that.

HD: I think kids in particular have the capacity to dream so big and endlessly that the way that they can inspire other kids and the way that they can touch other kids is really endless. For them to be able to have a space to feel comfortable to share their ideas and to want to make their dreams a reality is really inspiring.