Nothing feels more disappointing to a parent during the holidays than a kid acting ungrateful and entitled after opening their gifts. “It’s very hard to inspire gratitude in children who always have. Yearning is a big part of feeling grateful,” says Braun. Just think back to a time when you saw something you really wanted, but you couldn’t have it, or you had to wait a long time to get it. Didn’t the wait make it so much sweeter? Instead of giving a pile of presents that will get tossed aside the day after Christmas, pare it down to one or two items your child truly wants. Don’t be afraid to ask family to slim down their gift lists, too. “Your children don’t need a bunch of presents from you, and from Santa, and grandma and grandpa and all the aunts and uncles!,” says Braun, who suggests family members chip in one one big thing together—preferably an experience, like a trip to an amusement park, or tickets to a show.