Theresa Sweeney Witham, a mom of a son with autism and ADHD in Baltimore, noticed some real control issues with her son and their Christmas tree. “One year, he wanted to group ornaments by type—animals here, snowmen there. I go with the flow and let him realize his vision!” But if your child’s control issues get in the way of siblings being able to share in the fun, let him have his own mini-tree in his room, to decorate however he wishes. In my home, my son always liked to blow out the menorah candles, which are meant to stay lit until they burn out. In order to celebrate the candle lighting without holding him back from blowing or scolding, we switched to an electric menorah.