10 Common Registry Questions
Is there a benefit to registering online as opposed to in a store?
How do I know how much to register for?
Sign up for more than you think you should. It might feel presumptuous, but remember―no one guest is going to take on the responsibility of filling all your requests. Rather than judging you for being greedy, guests are more likely to become frustrated if they can’t find an item that fits their taste or price point. The bottom line: Your only limiting factor should be what you know you will use, love, and have room for. In other words, don’t sign on for a carving knife if you’re a vegetarian―you just might get it.
A couple of nonconventional options: You can register at depositagift.com or myregistry.com for cash gifts to fund a large purchase or at weddingfutures.com for stocks.
My fiancé and I have different tastes. How should we handle our registry?
An alternative: Mix and match items like mugs and towels so that each of you scores some picks. (Of course, this tactic doesn’t work when it comes to registering for matching sets, like silverware and china.)
It’s also worth it to throw your fiancé a bone―and a scan gun―and let him register at a hardware or home-supply store. These retailers often cater to grooms, but do-it-yourself brides will find plenty to love, too.
At how many retailers should I register?
- a high-end store
- an inexpensive retailer
- a wild-card company (such as a charity)
- Look for stores that offer “completion packages”―typically a 10 to 20 percent discount on unpurchased items for about a year after the wedding―so you can buy leftovers yourself.
- Many retailers partner with wedding websites, such as theknot.com and weddingchannel.com. If yours do, have someone spread the word that your registries are listed on the wedding site in question. All guests have to do is search for your name and click and they’ll have access to all your registries.
Is it possible to have too few inexpensive items on my registry?
If you already own less-costly items (every-day flatware, coffee cups, place mats), it’s perfectly acceptable to register for what you do need―expensive items, like a couch or another piece of furniture, for example. Friends or family members can band together to buy you one item―just be sure you make that wish clear.
What if I have limited space for gifts?
Another option that requires no space: registering for donations (to those in need, not for your own house fund). Check out idofoundation.org, which helps you register for donations to charities such as UNICEF and the Sierra Club. At justgive.org, you can register for global charities or ones closer to home.
How do I tell if a gift that arrives is intended to be for my engagement, shower, or wedding?
But for the purpose of thank-you notes, the occasion doesn’t really matter. Your note should reflect your relationship with the sender and your feelings about the gift, not the occasion it commemorated. “We broke in the blender with a banana smoothie on Sunday morning, and our relationship has been sweeter ever since” works fine, without any mention of your wedding.
How do I let guests know where I’m registered?
When should I send thank-you notes?
Even though it might feel like cheating, sending a single note for a shower and a wedding gift is perfectly acceptable. Reference both in your message, though, to assure the sender that you have received and you appreciate each gift.