What didn’t make your to-do list this year.
Topping my not-to-do list for 2009 is negative self-talk and worry that limits my potential and fulfillment in life.
I will not lose sight of my dreams; I will never forget everyone important to me. I will never forget who I am and who I want to be.
Walled Lake, Michigan
I am going to heed advice I read recently: to make Sunday what God created it for―rest. No laundry, no picking up clutter, no shopping. Just church in the morning, followed by R & R (resting and recharging) and a simple early-evening meal with my husband and eight-year-old son.
South Elgin, Illinois
I vow to stop worrying about future intangibles; I will let go and not sweat the small stuff. I’m learning that worrying about the unknown is much more challenging and time-consuming than actually experiencing it.
Raleigh, North Carolina
I want to stop saying yes when what I really want to say is no. Time is our most precious commodity and should be spent doing things we really want to do and being with people we really want to be with. So in 2009 I vow to say yes to saying no!
Copiague, New York
I was pregnant for half of 2008. I spent a lot of time focused on getting our house prepared for family to come and visit. There were things that didn’t necessarily have to be done for the comfort of my family, but I felt I needed to get them done. I did too much and lost sight of what was really important: welcoming our child to our home, no matter what that home looked like or what I thought it should look like. Next year I am not going to lose my focus on our family and our spending quality time together. We have a three-year-old and an infant. Our kids aren’t going to be small forever, and we need to take advantage of the time we have together now, before they figure out that their mom and dad are complete dorks. There will always be work to do around the house―nothing is ever done―but our kids go through only one childhood, and we need to make it memorable.
Carol Stream, Illinois
1. I will not put off going back to college to finish my degree. I have two years’ worth of classes to complete. Eventually I want to become a civil-rights lawyer.
2. I will not continue to defer my dream to visit Tahiti and Norway. I’ll do everything in my power to visit one of them in 2009.
Not go on a diet. Not go to an “after-holiday sale.” Not make a to-do list.
This might sound a little odd, but with two daughters under two years old, I plan on not having another child in 2009. That way, I can plan not to lose my mind. And that’s a priority on my list.
I plan not to watch TV later than 10 p.m. and not to stay up later than 10:30 P.M. during the workweek. Getting a good night’s sleep is vital to maintaining your health and being at your best the next day.
Guttenberg, New Jersey
Don’t buy anything for myself in a larger size.
Last year I threw a Valentine’s Day party for my two elementary-school-age boys and their friends. The kids loved it; I was exhausted. We’re expecting a new baby in late 2008 (our fourth), and we will not be hosting any more children’s parties in our house for the foreseeable future.
I’m not going to stress about things I have no control over. I’m not going to allow 2009 to go by without taking a trip to some fabulous place I’ve never been before. I’m not going to let the last year of being able to say, “I’m in my 30s,” go away quietly.
I won’t give in to nicotine cravings, let mistakes keep me from trying again (and again and again), or let stress take away my precious time with my amazing grandchildren.
I am not going to ignore everything I have to do after work and watch Tivo all night.
My plan is to smile more, not frown in reaction to economic chaos, and simplify life.