Toasting Special Occasions
Toasts to the newly betrothed are meant to be short and sweet. Memorize a favorite quote and have it ready. Wait until the host gives a welcome toast, then offer yours. One woman swears by this fail-safe standby: "Antoine de Saint-Exupery said, 'Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.' To Tom and Mary. You can't take your eyes off each other tonight, but we all know you're just as focused on the road ahead!" Speak clearly and deliberately, look the couple straight in the eyes, and, above all, smile. Remember to keep the tone light and upbeat. Anything more weighty than general good wishes and humorous advice should be saved for the rehearsal dinner or the wedding reception.
Learn how to make a toast, then get 8 tips for giving a wedding toast to the happy couple.
A Rehearsal Dinner
A Wedding Reception
A maid of honor in Texas created a time capsule during her toast, asking guests to contribute something to a box that would be opened on the couple's 10th wedding anniversary. A bridesmaid in Minnesota made up a song and played the harmonica to give the bride something borrowed, something "blues."
Holiday toasts should first and foremost acknowledge the family member who shopped, chopped, boiled, and baked for the entire crew. Once that's taken care of, Florence Isaacs, the author of Here's to You!: Creating Your Own Meaningful Toast or Tribute for Any Occasion ($14, amazon.com), suggests giving a short toast in another language; Romance languages, in particular, have a way of making the prosaic sound elegant. She suggests "Salud, amor, y pesetas, y el tiempo para gustarlos," which is Spanish for "Health, love, and money, and the time to enjoy it." A Mother's Day brunch or dinner should always begin with a toast to all the mothers in the room. Last year one woman from Austin, Texas, saluted her mother by saying, "The most difficult people to thank are always the ones you see every day. In case I forget to say it 364 days a year, thank you, Mom." Another offered, "The only job in the world that's tougher than being a mother is being our mother. To our own personal saint!"