8 Simple Ways to Practice Self-Care Every Single Day (Because You Deserve It)
Practicing self-care isn't about staying at a bougie hotel for the weekend, purchasing an all-new wardrobe, or opting for two desserts instead of one. The art is much more internally nourishing than that, and one that takes some time to get the hang of given our propensity to put others before ourselves.
"A sustainable self-care practice is about creating moments within each day, week, month, season, and year to practice the kind of meaningful self-care that makes you feel healthy and joyful in mind, body, and soul," says Shel Pink, author of Slow Beauty, a book on mindful self-care. "When practiced over time, these small rituals add up to a healthier and more joyful life."
If you're not quite sure where to begin in your self-care journey, the simple suggestions we've outlined below will help you set off on the right path forward.
Get Enough Sleep Every Night
"We're a chronically sleep-deprived society. We now know that the vast majority of the population requires a full eight hours of sleep per night for both short-term and long-term good health, and we also know very few people get it," says Alex Lickerman, MD, author of The Ten Worlds: The New Psychology of Happiness. "Many adapt to six to seven hours of sleep and feel basically OK, but studies show the risk of Alzheimer's, dementia, and heart attacks rises sharply even with 30 to 60 minutes less sleep than our bodies need."
Instead of only focusing on setting an alarm to wake up, Dr. Lickerman also suggests setting one to go to sleep. To figure out a good bedtime, start with when you need to wake up and count back eight hours.
Keep a Gratitude Journal
It's easy to lose sight of positivity, especially when work and personal stress seems to be at its height. In these moments, writing down the things you're grateful for can help you feel better.
"Even in the midst of a crappy day, reminding yourself of gratitudes—whether it's the sun, a productive meeting at work, a special moment with family, or simply that your day is over and tomorrow brings a fresh start—can reframe the day," says Jess-Huff. "The more you practice gratitude, the more it becomes a natural part of your life."
In addition to eliminating negative self-talk, sleeping enough, and writing down the things you're thankful for, meditation is another excellent way to practice self-care.
"A consistent meditation practice can be life-changing. It's even been scientifically proven to reduce stress, increase feelings of empathy, improve focus, boost the immune system, and slow the signs of aging," notes Pink. "To start, I recommend using [apps] to access a variety of different styles of meditation to see what works for you."
Give Yourself a Daily Self-Massage
A "treat yourself" moment doesn't have to involve spending lots of money on a full-day pampering session at the spa. Instead, you can opt for a self-administered massage, says Pink. She recommends the Abhyanga massage technique, which is part of the Ayurvedic tradition. Other options include a simple hand or foot massage given to yourself, or a DIY neck massage. You can find lots of YouTube videos and articles with great pointers.
Learn to Say No
Many people struggle with setting appropriate boundaries with others, which often leads us to commit to things even when we'd rather not. This may not seem like a big deal, but Dr. Lickerman notes that an inability to say no often leads to resentment and even anger outbursts. It can also make you feel like you're not living your own life, or that you're living your life according to others' whims, which can make you lose sight of your own needs and desires.
"Many voices in your head may push you to say yes when you really want to say no, and the chief among these voices is the one that tells you that you risk being disliked if you say no," Dr. Lickerman says. "You must learn to tolerate the anxiety that saying no likely brings. Once you learn to do this, you'll discover people don't dislike you for it. In fact, they'll likely respect you even more."
Enjoy Some 'Nature Bathing'
Nature bathing is simply the practice of spending deliberate time outdoors to appreciate the living Earth around you. "Seek out daily opportunities to be in nature. Walk in the woods, go for a hike, walk along the beach, do some gardening, anything in nature that resonates with you will do. Expose yourself to the beauty of nature and reap the benefits," Pink says. "Immersing yourself in nature calms the central nervous system, elevates your mood, and increases energy levels. The effects of the benefits are felt for hours and days post-immersion."
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