This article originally appeared on Money.
If you find yourself in a relationship with someone who has different money spending (or saving) habits than you, things can get rocky pretty quickly. Lauren Greutman, the author of The Recovering Spender, has a few tips you should keep in mind as you start discussing your financial styles.
First, make a list of what you each want out of life. This can be life goals, savings goals, career moves, family expectations, or a big purchase or dream vacation. Then go over your lists together. Greutman is pretty confident that you both will have similar points. The list will help to narrow down the tasks you both need to focus on.
Next, make sure that you constantly check in with each other about how you are spending money. Greutman suggests talking with each other about what you plan on spending each day. She calls this the “money checkup.” It doesn’t have to be a long conversation, just a quick “touching base” that keeps you both in the loop.