How to Stop Fighting Over Money
The Designated “Money Manager” Doesn’t Pay Bills on Time
Why you fight: Obviously, the person who is failing to meet the financial obligations of the household is putting the family in financial
danger (poor credit ratings, expensive late fees or even foreclosure on a home). On the other hand, that person may feel overwhelmed
and resentful at having to bear the brunt of the financial responsibility.
How to stop: Set a date each month to sit down and sort through all the bills together. Take this time to discuss the overall state of your finances and solve issues as they come up. This way, one person won’t feel like he or she is shouldering all of the burden.
The bottom line: Look for practical ways to lessen the burden on the money manager, like signing up for automatic online bill payments. Or, shift the responsibility to the other partner for a few months to see if that works better. The key is not to place blame, but to try to find a solution together.
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