How to Stop Fighting Over Money

One of You Borrows Money From Family—Without the Other Knowing 

Why you fight: Borrowing money from a family member is always fraught, and when in-laws are involved, the stakes are doubled. Those proverbial apron strings become reinforced with steel once you accept a loan. And sooner or later, your partner is going to notice that you’re making a monthly payment to Mom.

How to stop: This argument comes down to trust. You want to discuss not just the fact that money was lent, but that the decision was made in isolation. Your partner should always be your first stop when it comes to solving financial problems.

The bottom line: If you’re strapped and your parents can or want to lend you some cash, talk to your partner before taking that check to the bank. If he or she objects, talk about what alternative options might be feasible.