5 Types of Friends Everyone Should Have
Jerry had George, Kramer, and Elaine. Carrie had Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte. They knew, as you do, that one person can’t fulfill every friendship function. Here, experts weigh in on the key personalities you shouldn’t be without.
The Comic Relief
Recently a close pal and I were both coping with very ill parents. There’s nothing funny about disease and dying, but for
a whole year we compared notes in a humorous way. We each used hyperbole to describe our plights and made dark jokes about
whose family situation was more depressing. We made fun to relieve our sadness (albeit temporarily), and that ability to make
each other laugh helped us both get through the tragedy. Another good thing about a friend with a great sense of humor? She
usually has warmth and compassion to spare.
Lucinda Rosenfeld is the author of four novels, including The Pretty One ($26, amazon.com) and I’m So Happy for You ($14, amazon.com). A former friendship and advice columnist for Slate, she lives in New York City.
The Life Coach
Because of our busy lives, I hardly ever speak to one of my closest friends. But it doesn’t really matter. When we do connect,
without fail, she reinvigorates me. Her pep talks make me feel more hopeful about myself and my future. What’s more, my energizer
friend is strong and tough, with a vigor for life I can feed off of. Through her example, she makes me more eager to achieve
my goals or just keep tackling my everyday. Talking with her recharges my emotional battery until the next time we have a
minute to pick up the phone.
Courtney Macavinta is the author of Respect ($16, amazon.com) and a cofounder of the Respect Institute, a nonprofit that offers youths the tools to build self-respect. She lives in New York City.
The Risk Taker
We all need an adventurous friend who nudges us out of the status quo—someone who introduces us to new ideas, philosophies,
and activities that we might have otherwise not been exposed to or feared to explore on our own. I’ve long been inspired by
a world-traveler friend whose preschooler’s passport has more stamps than most adults’. She has helped me become less intimidated
and more excited about traveling. In fact, thanks to her, my husband and I drove an RV across Canada two summers ago with
our three children, who were all four or under. Scary? Yes. But we had so much fun, we’re going again this year.
Andrea Bonior, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and the author of The Friendship Fix ($16, amazon.com). She lives in Bethesda, Maryland.