How to Tell If Your Child Is Too Competitive
5. She Doesn’t Respect Her Competitors
Maybe she delights in trash-talking. Or perhaps she needs to convince herself that she’s better than other people by calling
them stupid or cheaters. Teaching respect—even for those who are more talented—will help her flourish as a child and in her
What to do about it: Correct her when you hear trash-talking, and point out other people’s strengths in addition to her own. Ask her for examples of things she has in common with her competitors to establish that they’re equally worthwhile people. Going forward, encourage her to compete primarily against her own performance, so she learns to take pride in her own progress, as well as practice self-motivation.
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