How to Tell If Your Child Is Too Competitive
4. He Cheats in Order to Win
This can range from literal cheating to changing or breaking the rules. Even if it’s only a board game or an assignment for
an extracurricular activity, treat cheating as a serious offense. If this turns into a habit, it can easily snowball into
What to do about it: In the short term, cheating calls for a strong talking-to and a punishment. In the long term, think about the messages that you’re sending. “There are important questions other than ‘who won?’ that are useful for a child—and a parent—to ask and answer,” says Schpancer. If you show irritation when he misses a shot in basketball or you compare him to his friends, you may send the message that your approval is contingent on achievement. Make it clear that you’re more proud of your child’s efforts than the end result.