How to Tell If Your Child Is Too Competitive
2. He Gets Negative About Himself
Noam Schpancer, a professor of psychology at Otterbein University who studies child care and development, says that it’s possible
to feel like a champion even when you’re statistically average. “Recent research in positive psychology shows that the sense
of control and social connectedness afforded by high achievement can also be obtained by other means,” he says. Even if your
child doesn’t consistently come in first, avoid letting him feel like he’s at the whim of something beyond his power.
What to do about it: If your child gets frustrated by losing, praise his effort and highlight the good things that he does. He might have struck out at bat, but you can point out how well he fielded the ball. If he’s getting demoralized at a certain competitive activity, you can also consider switching his focus from competition to skill-building and teamwork by choosing activities like drama, art or music.