How to Tell If Your Child Is Too Competitive
1. She’s Becoming a Braggart
Your kid needs to remember that she has many positive qualities aside from her in-the-moment winnings. Plus, on a more tangible
level, you don’t want her to become ostracized by peers who resent the bragging.
What to do about it: Try to reinforce the attributes she should be proud of that go beyond the specific record that she broke or test she aced. When you give her a compliment, focus not on the “win,” per se, but on the admirable qualities that helped her get there, such as hard work, motivation and the fact that she didn’t give up even though she used to find this task difficult.
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