What Are the Rules of Public Cell-Phone Usage?

Q. What is the etiquette regarding cell-phone use in a public space like a coffee shop?
Alicia Zander
Austin, Texas

A. Oh, I can't get this question enough. I could answer this question all day and all night and still have more to say. I know I'm swimming against a strong tide here―in an age when people seem to be defending their right to gab as much as their other inalienable rights―but I strongly, vehemently, passionately urge you to refrain from using your cell phone in a coffee shop, or in similar public spaces. I know that sometimes this is unavoidable, and it’s certainly more convenient and expedient for you to sit and take a call at your table, but it's incredibly inconsiderate to those around you. So I say: Don't initiate calls on your cell when you're not in a private place. Just don't! And if you happen to receive a call when you're out in public that you feel you must take, excuse yourself and go stand outside, or at least by the front door, where you won't bother other patrons. I understand that people often think they're taking a call that will "just be a second." But let's face it―that quick check-in with your mom/spouse/daughter may well balloon into a three-act conversation, possibly accompanied by tears and expletives, turning everyone in your midst into hostage audience members. I don't know anyone who enjoys listening to other people's cell-phone conversations. Do you?

—Julie Rottenberg