This is a biggie. “You need to make a date with your new spouse during the reception, even if it’s just 5 or 10 minutes. Sneak away to a secret spot,” says Lisa Vorce of Lisa Vorce Co. in Los Angeles. If your ceremony and reception are at the same site, take a few moments to hang out in a dressing room. Or, if you’re driving from a church to the reception, go alone rather than riding with the whole wedding party. “When my husband and I got married, we had a driver take us from the church to the reception, and our photographer rode along in the front seat. It was such a refreshing break to talk about the ceremony, read the surprise inscriptions we’d had engraved inside our rings, and talk about what we were excited about at the reception,” says Hurst.