10 Common Wedding Party Questions, Answered

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3. Is a maid of honor necessary? What about two maids of honor?

Since your MOH will basically serve as your chief of staff for the next few months, not having one will add a considerable amount of work to your already crowded plate. But if one is good, having two isn’t necessarily better―it can cause confusion. You can have both a maid of honor and a matron of honor, but that’s usually only if one of the two people you want to pick―your sister and your closest friend, for example―is married and the other is not.

4. I’m terrified that my flower girl will have a temper tantrum mid-ceremony. Is there any way to avoid this?

Any parent who has stepped onto an airplane with a little one knows that some meltdowns are inevitable. That said, you can be prepared.

• If she’s on the younger side (around three years old), have a friend greet the pint-size petal dropper at the altar with a small gift, then whisk her back to her parents for the duration of the ceremony.
• Older flower girls will usually cooperate at the altar, but storing a few just-in-case toys under the front pew is never a bad idea. Give fussy flower girls their very own Little Flower Girls Sticker Paper Dolls ($1.50 each, amazon.com) to get them excited about the job at hand.