Request: You are offered a promotion that you don't want. Even though it means more money, it demands more hours and more of what your boss calls responsibility and you call tedium.

What you should say: "I'm flattered that you want me, but for personal reasons I'm not in a situation where I can take this on. Perhaps in a year from now things will be different. Can we talk again if my circumstances change?"

Why it works: If you're caught in this enviable dilemma, your boss will understand you have personal priorities that take precedence.

Why you shouldn't feel guilty: By saying no to more time at the office, you're saying yes to other things you cherish, be they long walks alone at sunset or evening time with your children.

How to avoid the situation in the future: "If a position opens up at your workplace, you could let it be known that you are not in the running," author Patti Breitman suggests. Being forthright saves your manager the trouble of pursuing a candidate who isn't interested.