OFTEN HEARD SAYING: "Everyone knows you got the beauty and your brother got the brains."

THE OFFENSE: Doesn't pick on people his own size. Hurts others' feelings.

YOUR COURSE OF ACTION: The bully uses mockery as a way of connecting with others. Don't play his game — he probably has an arsenal of experience dating back to his days of milk-money thievery. But do stand up for yourself, and don't back down. Author Sue Fox suggests using humor to make light of his seriousness: "And you obviously got the charm."