OFTEN HEARD SAYING: "Whatever you think is best."

THE OFFENSE: Follows every shred of opinion with a question mark. Knows what she wants but tells you after the fact.

YOUR COURSE OF ACTION: "This person is wounded because you haven't been able to read her mind," says psychologist Barry Greenwald. Her behavior is a subtle manipulative device that she is probably totally unaware of. Get past the after-the-fact guilt and ask her to be clear the next time. Say something along the lines of "If you let me know next year what kind of pie you prefer, I'll put it on the menu."