While the loss of a pet takes a toll on the whole family, it can be especially difficult for a child, as it may be his first experience with death. But trying to protect your child by saying the pet ran away could cause him to expect its eventual return—and to feel betrayed after finding out the truth, says Nancy Peterson, an issues specialist at the Humane Society of the United States. Instead, share your sadness with your child to reassure him that his feelings are OK. Then consider doing one of the following to honor your pet’s memory and to help your child find closure.

Create a living memorial by planting a tree, a bush, or a flower bed in your yard.

Sit down with your child and write a letter to the pet.

Make a donation to an animal-protection group. Most local organizations will list the donor and the pet in the memorial section of their newsletters.