No. OK, that was a lie. It all depends on why you’re being honest. “Honesty with oneself is primary and paramount,” says Arthur Caliandro, the senior minister at Marble Collegiate Church, in New York City, and the author of Make Your Life Count (HarperCollins, $14, available on www.amazon.com). But when it comes to other people, the situation gets more sensitive. “If we were to tell other people everything we actually feel or think, it could be devastating,” says