Etiquette Questions, Answered: Weddings

Should I Correct the Bride?

Q. I’m in the bridal party of a friend's fast-approaching wedding. I’m very excited for her and honored to be a part of her special day, but she has misspelled my name on all the invitations she has sent me so far. I can only assume she has done the same on the wedding program. Do I let this one go, or do I try and catch her on it before she sends the program to the printer? I am leaning toward just letting it go.
Kelly Vaughan
New Braunfels, Texas
 
A. I'm impressed by your inclination to let the spelling mistake go, and with that kind of approach, I predict you will lead a long and gray hair-free life. Still, I think it's completely acceptable for you to speak up about the misspelling before the program goes to the printer. It's your name, after all, and I'm guessing your friend who loves you enough to want you in her bridal party would want it spelled correctly. And aside from your conflicted feelings about having your name misspelled (which to me is just downright annoying), it reflects badly on her to have any mistakes or typos in her wedding program. Presumably, this program is something she wants to save and cherish for the rest of her life. So if it's not too late, I think pointing out the problem would be appreciated.

—Julie Rottenberg

 
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