Etiquette Questions, Answered: Weddings
Can I Skip a Registry Gift and Give Money?
Q. If someone has a wedding registry, is it rude to give money?
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A. Rude? Try brilliant! No bride and groom have ever met a check they didn’t like better than a set of glass salad plates—even if they picked out those plates themselves in a frenzied death march through Bloomingdale’s five minutes before closing time. Yes, that includes couples who painstakingly chose everything on their registry and genuinely covet each item on it. But guess what? They’re still going to be happy with money! (For example, they can use your generous cash gift to buy something from the registry.)
I can hear you thinking, But isn’t it the thought that counts? Yes, it’s the thought that counts. So write a thoughtful, heartfelt card, attach it to a fat check, and everyone comes out on top.