Etiquette Questions, Answered: Social Situations
Q. I adore my hairstylist, whom I’ve been seeing for the past six years. But recently a close friend of mine opened a salon. I brought my daughter there for a haircut and was impressed with my pal’s work. I would like to start having her do my hair as well. What is the proper way to end the relationship with my current stylist?
A. More than one friend of mine has used the word cheating to describe what she’s doing to one stylist with another—or has grabbed my arm to slink guiltily past this or that salon. But your impulse to be open is more commendable: It’s just plain nice of you to be considerate of your stylist’s feelings. Share your plans with her in a gracious but direct way: “A friend of mine has opened her own salon, and I want to support her with my business. But thank you so much for six years of fantastic haircuts.” Don’t worry: She’s a professional, and this sort of thing probably happens to her from time to time. In all likelihood, she won’t be heartbroken; she’ll just be grateful for your candor.