Etiquette Questions, Answered: Social Situations
My Boyfriend's Parents Don't Like Me. What Can I Do to Win Them Over?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over two years, but I’ve met his parents only a few times. As he has told me, they have deemed me unworthy, due to my age (I’m four years older than he is) and my health (I had a case of sinusitis on one occasion). They do not want me in their house or at any of their social events—even my boyfriend’s birthday dinner. As a result, things are pretty awkward, even though my boyfriend has confronted them about it. What can I do to get them to accept me?
Name withheld by request
A. Unfortunately not much. Your job with your boyfriend’s parents (and with everyone else) is to be your best self. Either they will warm to you or they will stick with their odd reasons not to, but being genuine is all you can do. Ultimately this is an issue between your boyfriend and his parents, since they are, in effect, forcing him to choose between them and you. Eventually he’s going to have to choose you—or you may need to move on.
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