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Splitting the Wedding Tab

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Gemma Comas
A guideline for divvying up the costs of the big day.

Below is a traditional breakdown of expenses shared by the family and the bridal party. However, given modern wedding protocol, the bride and the groom need not be so hung up on who should pay for what. Consider the personal and financial situations of your family, friends, and bridal party. You may want to pick up some of the costs, such as paying for the bridesmaids’ shoes if you want to be sure they all wear the same kitten heels, or hosting the engagement party if you want it larger than what the groom’s parents can afford.
 
 

Bride

  • Couple’s personal stationery and thank-you notes
  • Wedding programs and guest book
  • Gifts for bridesmaids and flower girl
  • Lodging for bridesmaids


 

Groom

  • Bride’s engagement ring
  • Marriage license
  • Officiant’s fee
  • Rental or purchase of his formal wear
  • Gifts for the groomsmen and ring bearer
  • Lodging for groomsmen


 

Bride and Groom

  • The wedding bands
  • The honeymoon (in traditional families, this is still considered the groom's expense)  


 

Bride’s Family

  • Engagement and wedding pictures
  • Wedding invitations
  • Wedding planner
  • Bridal attire
  • Ceremony fees (including rental of synagogue or chapel, chuppah, aisle carpets, and other decorating items)
  • Flowers (arrangements for ceremony and reception, as well as all bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres)
  • Reception (site fees, caterer, food, bar, gratuities, decorations)
  • Music (ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception)
  • Bridesmaids’ luncheon
  • Transportation for bridal party to ceremony and reception  


 

Groom's Family

  • Rehearsal dinner (or any other expense they elect, such as all beverage and liquor service, limousines, music for the reception, or photography and/or videography)
     

Bridesmaids

  • Bridal shower
  • Bridesmaids’ dresses and shoes
  • Bachelorette party
  • Any traveling expenses  


 

Groomsmen

  • Bachelor party
  • Rental of formal wear
  • Any traveling expenses
     

Flower Girl’s and Ring Bearer’s Parents

  • Attire for flower girl and ring bearer  


 

Guests

  • Traveling and lodging expenses (even if you’re having a destination wedding, guests pay their own way)

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