Etiquette Help for the Holidays
Stocking the Bar
Q. My husband and I host Thanksgiving for both of our families. My grandmother is very traditional and does not drink alcohol or go places where it is served. My in-laws enjoy a drink with dinner, especially during the holidays. How do I keep everyone happy?
A. Go ahead and serve alcohol, but be discreet. Keep beer in the fridge and pour it into glasses and set wine and spirits in a corner of the kitchen, with a dishtowel draped over the bottles. Arrange non-alcoholic beverages, such as apple cider and white and red grape juice, on the table and serve them in wine glasses. As guests arrive, offer to get them drinks and let them know where to go for refills. “So everyone has different colored liquids in their glasses and you don’t say anything about it,” says Smith. “You’re not trying to dupe grandma, but you don’t want the drinking to be in her face either.” By having alcohol available, but not out in the open, you are showing respect for her and for those who like a Chardonnay with their holiday.