Use Some Magic Words
Just two syllables—if and then—can help you keep it together, even when your sister pushes your buttons or the boss is breathing down your neck. According to research from the University of Winnipeg, in Manitoba, reframing thoughts about a situation with if and then statements may help you manage fear, sadness, fatigue, self-doubt, or even disgust. Try this: Think of a challenge you’re facing. That’s your if clause (example: “If I’m under the gun on a deadline…”). Then decide what kind of positive response you would like to have. That’s your then clause (“…then I will keep a cool head”). Put them together and that’s what you should say to yourself to make stressful circumstances seem more manageable.