How to Go Gray Gracefully

Aura Friedman, a hairstylist at the Sally Hershberger Downtown salon, in New York City, shares her advice.


Grow It Out

Photo by Peter Hapak

To make the process less awkward, cut hair short, then bleach or color-match the ends to the roots. Or ask your colorist for demipermanent lowlights, which will soften the color differentiation at the roots and won't create a line as it fades.


Keep It Bright

Gray hair can turn dingy from minerals present in your water. Once a week, use a violet-tinted product, like Davines Alchemic Shampoo Silver ($25.50,, which will tone down and neutralize any yellow or brassy hues. For a brightening bonus, opt for an in-salon treatment, like Redken Pre Art Treatment (prices vary, for salons), every 8 to 12 weeks to remove buildup.


Keep It Soft

Gray hair tends to be coarse, so use a hair oil. Pump into your palm and, starting at the ends of wet hair, work your way up to the roots. Try Johnathan Gale Replenish Hair Oil ($58,, which has avocado oil and spearmint essential oil.